It is the duty of a husband to give proper place to his wife. However, if at present the husband is not doing well in terms of economy, the wife does not want to live in the in-laws’ house, then what is the solution? We will discuss on this.
Living with in-laws is certainly not what a wife wants. Because, if you are already married, of course the wife wants to live independently with her new family.
There are many things that force you to live with your in-laws at home. For example, the husband is not able to buy or construct a new house to live with his family. Wives also have rights over husbands, and husbands should know that wives also have rights to attention.
Husbands should pay attention to the following rights of wives.
It is the right of the wife to provide her with a safe house, and it is permissible for the husband to live with his wife,
“One of the rights of a wife that a husband must fulfill is to provide a safe place for his wife to live. And it is not permissible for a husband to keep people with his wife who are going to harm her or The wife should not like his existence.
Even if it is from the husband’s family, such as his mother, sister, father etc.
So can the wife refuse to live with her in-laws?
It is not permissible to force a wife to live with her in-laws if she does not want to. There is a fatwa of Shaykh Shalih al-Fauzan which is contained in the book Al-Muntaka min Fatawa al-Fauzan, he said:
“Until your wife does not want to live in your parents’ house, you cannot force her. As much as you can, you can explain the matter to your parents and make your wife live in a separate house. Keep in touch with your parents, be devoted to them, make them happy and do good to them as much as you can.
Islam is an ideal religion and he deeply understands its psychology. Wives and mother-in-law are women, where the nature of women is to give priority to feelings. Starting from matters of kitchen, household management and even domestic policies, there can be inconsistencies and differences. It could be that the wife has lost the plate on the kitchen shelf, this is a big and ongoing problem. So, a wife has a very basic right to have a place to live like her own home, even if it is small and rented.
Wife Samadhan does not want to live in in-laws house
What to do if the wife does not want to live with her in-laws? What is the solution? there are several:
- If the house is large, it is divided so that the kitchen is separate, or if it is two-story, then the kitchen and household appliances are separated.
- If you can afford to buy or rent a house near the husband’s parents, so that the husband and wife live together.
- If you are forced to live together, the husband should often encourage and comfort his wife and also apologize for not being able to fulfill the main rights of his wife in the marriage. For example, saying to your wife: “I have to be devoted to my parents, they’re sick and need to stay at home, that’s okay, hopefully later our children will be devoted to their moms.” Because they see me being devoted to my mother.” , and so on.” The point is to cheer her up often, entertain her, and try to make her her own home, even if she rents a small house, so that she becomes a “queen in her own house.”
The essence of all this is considered and carefully discussed. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, Aameen protect the homes of Muslims and grant them Taufiq.